Follow-up and Enforcing
  Abstinence Contracts

  • Do not lecture about the contract. Constant reference to the contract will build anger and resentment in your child.

  • Monitor your child’s behavior and activities.

  • If your intuition tells you something is wrong, it probably is. There is no need to wait for proof. Trust your instincts. Act now!

  • Enforce the contract. If your child violates the contract, enforce the consequences immediately!

  • Do not allow your child to renegotiate the terms after the contract has been violated.

  • Use escalating consequences. Start with one of the least-severe consequences and increase severity as necessary.

  • If the contract is violated and a consequence has  been instituted, then negotiate a new contract with a more severe consequence.

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