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Hosting Parties

Teens love parties. If your teenager wants to have a party at your house, how should you approach it?  Be ready! Teens are by nature, spontaneous creatures, so they may want to put something together quickly. 

BEFORE THE PARTY:

Set the tone with guidelines:

  • Explain to your teen that you are legally responsible for anything that happens to a minor who has been served drugs or alcohol in your home.
  • Go over the party plans and activities with your teen (and his/her friends).
  • Encourage them to plan organized activities or to have a theme.
  • Let your teen know your expectations. Share your views on alcohol-free and drug-free parties.
  • Make a clear rule that no duffels, bags, water bottles or coffee shop cups will be allowed.
  • Find out what food and beverages your teen wants to serve.
  • Create and/or post guidelines for your home that give clear, concise rules and expectations.  Example of House Rules document
  • Decide on the guest list (10-15 youth per adult chaperone).
  • If you planning in advance, prepare party invitations, and avoid email invites as these can be forwarded to others, possibly putting you and your teen in a difficult situation with party crashers. (A creatively designed hard copy can be used for “admittance” and make a special memory for the evening.)
  • Avoid open house parties. They are difficult to control.
  • Set an exact end time for the party.
  • Notify the police when planning a large party.  This will provide safety for guests and neighbors.

DURING THE PARTY:

Adults should be present throughout the party.

  • If you can, hold the party in the main part of the house. Your presence is more natural.
  • Bring out snacks, and non-alcoholic beverages throughout the night.
  • Designate other responsible adults to help chaperone.
  • Keep the lights on - it's easier to chaperone
  • Ensure that guests leave at the proper time to conform to curfew time

Alcohol or other drugs should not be served or allowed or available.

  • Be alert to any alcohol or drug use.
  • Uninvited guests or those bringing alcohol or drugs should be asked to leave.
  • Call appropriate law enforcement, if necessary. Do not allow anyone under the influence of illegal substances to go home alone or to drive.
  • Be ready to notify parents if anyone needs a safe ride home.
  • Anyone who leaves the party should not be allowed to return.

 

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